Abstract: In this article the authors introduce an alternative way that nurses can be with families, using a relational process that can enhance nurses' responses when working with those transitioning to parenthood. Seasons of Life, a framework adapted from the Maori health model He Korowai Oranga, emerged from practice to offer a compassionate and encouraging stance, while at the same time respecting each family's realities and wishes. The model allows the exploration of the transition to parenthood within a wellness model, and takes a strengths-based approach to emotional distress. This approach provides a sense of “normality”, rather than of pathology, for the emotions experienced by new parents. The specific issues men may face are discussed, where despite recent culture change that allows men a more nurturing parental role, there is still no clear understanding of how men articulate their sense of pleasure or distress at this time. Practitioners are encouraged to examine their own assumptions, values and beliefs, and utilise tools such as reflective listening, respect, insight and understanding. The most significant aspect of relationship between nurse and parents is not the outcome, but how nurses engage with families. Examples from practice will demonstrate some of the differing ways this relational process framework has been effective.